Hello can I have a post please. Hi everyone, im looking for some advice please…

Hello can I have a post please.

Hi everyone, im looking for some advice please. I dont have any children myself but my partner has a 11 month old baby boy which his ex partner is making it really difficult for him to see and have a relationship with. A bit of back story, he was on and off with his ex for about a year and he found out she was sleeping with 2 other guys at the same time so they split up on bad terms. He is part spanish and his son definitely looks like him so thankfully theres no doubt that his son is his. My partners mother died about 6 month’s before his son was born and he fell into a depression. I think he only saw his son a couple of times before I met him in April of this year but since we have been together he has been trying to arrange regular contact and his ex makes it impossible. When she found out he had moved on with me she was furious and was sending him quite abusive messages, and made it very clear that her son was not to be around me even though she has moved on to a new relationship herself. However he did have his son around me because he didnt feel confident having him on his own, I kept my distance to let the two of them bond and was mainly there to support him. His ex found out about this and was furious. Alongside this, my partner has been really struggling with depression and the police were called on one occasion to do a welfare check as he had possibly hurt himself, thankfully he hadn’t, it was more a cry for help because he is so defeated with this situation. The police informed social services who have then contacted his ex and told her to only allow supervised visits until he is back on his feet. This was about 2 months ago now and he is doing alot better, but she is totally using this as an excuse to weaponise his son against him, it seems like she is trying to punish him. She lied and said social work told her not to have him around his son at all, we called them to clarify this and they said they recommended supervised visits. After weeks of cancelling and excuses of not to meet him, she arranged to meet him in a park last week for a supervised visit, and left him there waiting for 1.5 hours and just never showed up and only got in touch 2 hours later with some excuse as to why she didnt go. He works full time and pretty much wasted a full day off trying to arrange something with her just to be stood up. It’s really tearing him apart. All he wants is to be a dad and to love and be there for his son. He has missed out on so much of his sons life already its really heartbreaking. She claims he is an absent father but I have witnessed any time he tries to see his son she just wont allow it. Where does he go from here? Is it fair for her to dictate who he can have around his son? I understand our relationship is new but it has been 6 months now and I want to be there to support him. She just seems so vindictive and manipulative. I really want to message her to tell her about herself and how badly this is affecting my partner but I know it will only cause more drama. Any advice would be much appreciated, thank you 💗


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