Please could I have a private post?
Posting anonymously because this is quite personal ❤️
My partner and I have been through a lot. There’s been broken trust, arguments, hurtful things said and at times a real tit-for-tat pattern where we’ve both reacted from being hurt.
Recently I’ve felt him withdrawing slightly, he isn’t doing the little things anymore that mean the most to me and it makes me cling on more, which I think pushes him further away. He’s my comfort person, so giving him space is hard because I’m scared of losing him, especially as he’s previously said that too much space can make him feel like I don’t care.
He can also say really hurtful things when he drinks. I usually believe he doesn’t mean them, but they stay with me and sometimes I react from that hurt. Then I start wondering… is this actually how he feels and alcohol just removes the filter?
My friends and family don’t think he’s good for me, but I genuinely feel like he’s my person.
So I guess I’m asking — has anyone been through something similar? A relationship where there’s still so much love, but things have become unhealthy, trust has been damaged and you’ve got stuck in this push-pull cycle? Can you actually come back from something like this and make it work? I’d love to talk to someone who’s an outsider on this and get more prospective.
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