Please could I have a private post. Please be kind guys. So I am nearly 13 weeks with baby no.6 previous 5 children was all with one ex this baby is my new partners well now husband we are both so madly in love with each other and tried for this baby however now its happened im having a hard time processing it all šŖ this baby is and will be so loved but I do not feel connected to the pregancy and when I have scans etc it doesnt feel like my baby in there at all the midwife has refered me to the mental health team im so worried I will not bond with baby when he/she is born š has anyone else felt or been threw anything like this please š
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Give yourself some grace, pregnancy is a complete whirlwind of emotions and what you are feeling is completely normal and its not uncommon what so ever, focus on being a kick ass super hero who creates life and take things day by day, there is no correct time limit for you to feel a bond with the little one, what you are feeling is completely valid but please do not feel guilty because it hasn’t happened yet, just keep yourself healthy and in the best possible mindset you can and I’m sure those feeling will arrive and you will feel nothing but infatuation for your little miracle, you’re doing great muma. Keep your chin up.also remember you are being a warrior and looking after 5 kids already, that in itself is alot.
Firstly congratulations! Pregnancy as you will know brings all kinds of emotions and because you feel a certain way just now doesn’t mean it won’t change. I want to add that when I was pregnant with my first child I had Pre-natal depression which I did not even know was a thing so maybe it could be that. Definitely speak to a doctor about it. Be kind to yourself & sending hugs x
Maybe subconscious you feel different be because baby has different dad? Who knows