Hi could i have a private post please.
3 weeks ago I split up with my partner after a year together. I have 3 kids to previous partner but this ex partner I have just split up never had any time for them. He always used to say he wasn’t in the relationship to play Dad to my kids. It took alot for him to even acknowledge them & he wouldn’t come to my house unless they were in bed. At the beginning we went out to dinner & did things together then all of a sudden he stopped putting his hand in his pocket. Towards the end he stayed practically every night (when we were speaking) as there was always an argument occuring. I was setting my alarm for 6am to get up make his breakfast in bed before he went to work & I was making him lunch & snack to take to work. I was always making him homemade dinners for him coming to mine all of which i paid for. He used to say nasty things to me alot ( I was spotty had no backside, arched back, didn’t walk properly, i didn’t have a figure for jeans so I had to wear leggings – just anything that he could think of really) but made out as if it was the truth & wasn’t meant out of nastyness. Any time I got fed up listening to it all and reacted he accused me of not being “normal” & causing the fights. I also gave him a loan of £2000 from my savings which hes never paid me back even though he works full time – I even suggested paying a little back each week so I could save it all up again for my kids Christmas. We split up there because he had 2 weeks off work & he wanted me to book & pay for a weeks holiday abroad without my kids so he told me he had been in contact with someone else & he would be going with them if i didnt get something booked. Anytime I spoke to a male friend in passing & told him about it in general conversation he would always say “he’s only speaking to you because he knows you’re a sl*t. There’s loads more to this situation which he has said / done to me yet I still miss him & i’ve convinced myself i love him but how could i? I think i just don’t want to be on my own & try to persuade myself he isn’t bad so I have someone there. I’ve really struggled today so any advice would be great. Thanks.
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I haven’t read to the end..I stoped when he would not have anything to do with the kids …should never have gained entry…kids will remember his feelings towards them or lack of….
No way do not stand for that! Honestly focus on you and your kids for a few months without all of that negativity. Youll be happier and thank yourself in the long run. You wont be single forever and even if you are sounds better than being with him xx
You have been abused and stolen from …. he used you for his selfish needs only. You cant love being used and abused …. truly if you think you love him please seek therapy because nothing about this is love.
Stay strong beautiful. You are worth more than this. Your kids deserve better, as do you. You’ve got this. Red flag, 🚩 you know it girl. What is there to miss. This isn’t love it’s abuse. I hope you manage to get your money back, if needs be you could try taking him to small claims court. Otherwise you’ve paid for him to take someone else on holiday with your savings, your kids Christmas monies. If he didn’t want to take on the kids he shouldn’t have got involved with someone with 3 kids.