Can I get a private post please. Ive been with my partner for just over 3 years we have a 1 year old together, and he has 5 kids from his previous relationship, the youngest being 14, the other 4 are over 20. Im struggling to see where the relationship is going anymore. I gave up everything to move to a new city to be with him. His elder kids just treat me like im a maid, he doesnt say anything, his 14 year old treats me like im something he stepped in, hits me ect with no consequences from his dad. My partner doesnt help me with our 1 year old. Barely provides financially for him when he pays over 200 a month for his 14 year old, he treats the 2 completely different, for our one year olds birthday he spent £12 on him but his 14 year old got almost £100, Christmas was the same, his eldest is constantly getting treated to sweets, takeaways while it’s even hard work to get some milk for my 1 year old. All his ex has to do is click her fingers and he goes running yet I have to beg and beg to even get a shower in peace. I know I need to leave but im scared of doing it all completely alone, ive done it once with my almost 15 year old and dont want to do it again. My partners already said he will continue to see his 14 year old as he does which is most days and just see our 1 year old when hes got time. When i bring it up to him about how it seems like clear favouritism between them i just get told im jealous. I guess I dont even know the point of this post really, just somewhere to rant I guess as I dont have anyone to confide in or talk to about it. I dont know if im being irrational with how im feeling because im overwhelmed and desperately need a break or if my feelings are valid. I just know I’ve had enough and cant take much more. Im so sorry the the long post.
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You need to get out of this situation nothing will change . You seem to do it all yourself already and to be honest you don’t deserve to be physically or mentally abused by the kids or your partner. Your child will grow up with a unhappy mummy and then think it’s ok to treat people how they treat you. I didn’t think I could do things on my own and I have since 2020. Mum kids are the happiest they have ever been and we do what we can when we can
You are already doing it alone so get out and create and peaceful loving home for you and your babies his loss x
You need to leave. You both deserve better..move in with a relative/friend where you lived previously. Please don’t be like me and waste years in an empty relationship. You and your child deserve better. It may seem scary now to start over but you’ll be glad you did.
Good luck and sending hugs. Xx
What’s keeping you there?
Your doing it alone already hunny. I wouldn’t keep putting yourself in this horrible situation its not fair on you and your children. You deserve better and if he can’t do that he isn’t worth it anymore.. I find it easier on my own better routines and stress. You have to put yourself 1st you need to be happy and treated correctly and how you should be. Save yourself babe. Xx
I promise you with all my wee heart and I don’t even no you once you leave youl see what happiness is I promise I’m not saying it’s easier actually maybe it will be but it will be yours I wish I could come and save you, please leave xxxxxx
You’re doing it alone anyway, will just be alot lighter without the extra baggage