Hey could I have a private post please im pregnant with our 4th baby 15 weeks we have 3 older kids together 16 13 and 10 my partner seemed happy at first well as happy as can be planning names etc but when we get into arguments he always says how much he doesn’t want another baby and he feels it’s a waste of life having another child being unhappy he claims how unhappy he he what’s more from life than just kids and he makes me feel awful because he says we should be able to give our kids more holidays and memories and he makes me feel guilty almost is just ay my wits end now and it’s so upsetting the other day he kissed my belly and asked how little one is doing snd then Today it’s i don’t want it it’s so confusing 😞 ive told him to leave if hes that unhappy and his excuse is I have nowhere to go z
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If he didn’t want more kids, he should’ve wrapped it and pulled out. He knows how kids are made. I’d be telling him he needs to figure out what he wants cuz this back and forth will make the baby (and possibly the other kids) feel unwanted and unloved. They deserve better than that and so do u.
If you can raise this baby and the other three children alone, I’d put plans in motion for him to find somewhere else to live. This resentment will only build the further into the pregnancy you get. If he’s saying this now, I very much doubt he’ll come around. If you’re happy then don’t live with this resentment.
He’s a dope! He understands how babies are made right?!
He should have worn protection then
He’s acting like a child! If he’s not willing to commit to your family, new baby too then go it alone. It’s up to him to find himself elsewhere to live, not you. You deserve a stress free pregnancy. Good luck with everything xx
So , send him on his way if he’s that unhappy, let him go and find happiness somewhere else .
I wouldn’t take it to heart, men are different to women. He will come round as soon as he sees baby, my partner could not get his round ours when he was born we have a 12 year age gap. We only had one child life’s been easy but accidentally got pregnant last year. He was so traumatised at the thought of starting all over and just kept thinking of the negatives. but you should see him now he’s here. There bond is unmatched he loves him to pieces. It will take time but he will come round 🫶🏼💙 xx
i’m gonna go against the grain here and say he’s feeling anxious and scared of starting all over again, my own husband also went through strange feelings on our last pregnancy but once our son was here he was a fantastic daddy and cherished our son, 23 yrs on he wouldn’t change things for anything, give hubby a chance and try not to argue it’s easier to just say okay and walk away give yourselves space to calm down, good luck