Cani please have a very very private post.
I’ll try to keep this short, I was adopted age 7 months old to a lovely couple who also had a 9 year old biological son, sadly when she gave birth to him there were complications and she had to have a hysterectomy hence why they got me.
I had a wonderful childhood and was very close with my adopted brother, growing up I always knew I was adopted and my family never kept it secret from me.
When I got to around 16/17 I started having strong feelings for my brother and one thing led to another and we started a sexual relationship, we’ve kept this hidden for the last 2 years.
The problem I have now is I am 4 months pregnant and I don’t know how to tell my family, I know it will be hard for my family to hear, I know legally there’s no issues as we aren’t blood related.
My question is would you tell your family or continue with the secret and your baby will never know who their father is. And before anyone goes off on me love is love and we can’t help what happened
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At this point since your pregnant I would tell them your together and expecting their grandchild. Give them time to take it in they likely will come round and be excited to be grandparents a new chapter has began
Girl ignore all these comments about sitting down and speaking…u need to take this one to the grave 😪😫
All the things that could go wrong if you open your mouth…
They might disown you. Then u have everyone else finding out 🤦♀️😫 social services will be involved the list is endless… To them youre brother and sister (not by blood) but even still…this is one for the grave 👌💯
Girl I hate to say it but that seems a bit dodgy for your brother…he was older than you…watched you grow up as his sister, I know you’re not blood but he’s the older person in this situation and it feels to me you’ve been taken advantage of…
They was always honest with you so be honest with them.
Bit weird like considering you was brought up as siblings.. but who am I to tell you how to live.
It’s happened and no going back and you can’t not tell your child who their dad is because of your own decisions.
ALSO you was 16 and him like 25?
Because that makes it even weirder.. he’s shagging his sister but also pretty much a kid.. what’s he said.. why can’t he tell your parents what he’s done?
Soo many questions.
I think you need to sit down and have an open and honest conversation all together with him and your family. Youve not done it on your own so you need to do it together.
Don’t let your child grow up without knowing their father just because you want to keep a secret. You need to be honest with everyone including yourself. I’ve always worked on honesty is the best policy. If he loves you back he will support you and you will be a loving family
Depends if your gonna be together if not then why rock the boat they’ll still be the babies grandparents either way 😳
It’s a difficult one yes by blood you are not brother and sister but on paper you are as you are adopted so by the law you are brother and sister I am adopted too so I know and you are raised as siblings and have the same surname tricky one
You were 16 and he was 25? How old are you now?