Hi there
I need some help or advice please
I always had a weight problem all my life. I can manage to loose weight but a year or two later I put some of ot back on. Im 45 years old but I dont feel confident. Im always wearing sweaters or jumpers and trousers. I dont know when the last time I wore a skirt or dress. I look at other women and they are so gorgeous and all dressed up . I think to myself were did I go wrong. I feel so deflated. Even my hair looks like crap . Any advice from mums . Thanks
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Sounds like a self esteem issue, not a weight issue. Does not matter how big yoi are, but if you don’t feel great about yourself, doesn’t matter whether you are a size 10 or a 22, you still won’t feel good. Get some counselling/ therapy, suss out what’s really goibg on in terms if your relationship with food, is it comfort, boredom, filling an empty space. X
Hello 🥰 I am exactly the same. 18 stone. Size 24.
This might not be what you want to hear but the last year I have focused on just being active where possible, keeping my hair neat – sometimes with a little accessory, minimal but neat everyday makeup (no lashes, eye brow lifts etc), and with my clothes, yes it is leggings as standard as I love them but I just make sure I wear a clean, nice top. I try to put one piece of jewellery on and I always put on perfume. I have had more compliments and been told I look nice then ever before in my life, even when slimmer and more fashionable. I also get told I look kind and friendly which I love. I hope maybe this helps. Little steps that say I am here, I feel nice and I enjoyed getting ready. I also love a scarf, hat and a brooch when it’s winter. I keep my shoes smart too. I only shop at eBay. Best wishes to you, oh and I never dress for the male gaze. Only myself, me and I. ♥️