Hi! Please calm my overthought pregnant brain. This is me and my partners first baby, I have a child from previous who is 10. He has a child he took on from birth but not biologically his who is now 8. The child does not know this information. His child does not want to come and stay at my house when he has his contact on a weekend (Friday for 2 nights every week) he’s very awkward and can make things difficult for my partner, he is socially uncomfortable in general and struggles with change. I’ve tried to accommodate around this but unfortunately he just won’t stay and that is respected. So every week, my partner goes to stay at his mums house (the child’s nana) and I don’t see either of them for the duration. So my concern is when our baby comes, what’s going to happen. I’m worried my partner will assume he can take the baby on a weekend so he forms some relationship with his current child, I already am losing my mind over this. He is my partner, we haven’t split up and are very much happy in everything else and this baby was planned but when we talk about his first child it’s always a sore subject and brushed under the carpet. Am I wrong for refusing my baby to be taken away from me on weekends just because his 8 year old won’t come round (not even stay) just come and spend time in our family home and adapt to change? I’m worried it’ll affect or potentially break up our relationship.
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