Hi, could I have a private post please🙏
My son is 16 years old & up until around the age of 14 was the most laid back, chilled out kid. People always commented about his lovely laid back character! I dont know what has changed but now hes become this angry, argumentative, stubborn & aggressive person that we dont even recognise!😩
Every single thing is a battle, we argue constantly. He doesn’t take NO for an answer. He raises his voice & shouts at me. He thinks he knows everything & its his way or the high way. He won’t listen, there’s no reasoning with him or meeting in the middle even, & its draining the life out of me!😩
He has never been physically aggressive but has began slamming & banging doors when hes angry, like he cant regulate his emotions.
I do absolutely EVERYTHING for him….lifts here & there, everything at home- he doesn’t lift a finger! We constantly transfer him money whilst hes out with his mates. He is so unappreciative & his expectations and self entitlement is off the chart!!
Recently he under achieved in his GCSEs and didn’t get his college place. I moved heaven & earth with phone calls, emails, exam remarks….we did it all to secure him a place finally at his college & we didn’t even get a Thanks.
I feel like he hates me. He sometimes looks at me with pure hatred, like even me breathing annoys him!
I know I’ve spoilt him. I know i do too much for him. Its made him lazy, bone idol & he has absolutely no drive for anything. He sits in his room online with his mates, and only comes out for food!
Hes due to start college next week & im hoping to see a marked improvement in his behaviour but I dont hold my breath as I feel like we’ve lost our lovely boy.
He has been brought up with manners, respect & to everyone else, he shows these & family & friends all think he’s lovely. Its just me I think😭
I suppose im after some advice from anyone who has been through something similar and come out the other side because I feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel! I thought at 16 he would be growing up and our relationship would be improving, not getting worst!
HELP a stressed out Mum on the edge!😬
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Stop the cash and try to talk to him
Stop the lifts, money transfers etc and step back. Let him see how much you do for him. Unfortunately teen yrs are hard but hes being mean and he knows it!!
It’s simple, stop saying no to everything he wants to do. Let him go to parties, let him stay out late. It’s normal and healthy for a 16 year old.