Hi can I get an anonymous post please?
My eldest daughter is going into high school this year and obviously uniform costs have increased a lot due to her needing blazer, skirts etc. My question is, her dad sends me £40 a week maintenance (which we agreed in private) but he only sees her once every few weeks for a couple of hours. Do you think i should ask him to contribute to her uniform or should i just leave it be? It’s not that I need the money, I just feel like its the principal of it when he hasn’t even asked if I want him to buy anything for when she starts. For context he lives at home with his parents and has a well paid job. Thanks in advance for everyone’s views x
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Of course
100% a contribution is still a contribution it shouldn’t be all on you especially with how much secondary school stuff cost if he says no atleast you have tried xx
If you went through child maintenance services he would probably be paying more than £40? So I would say yes he should contribute more for school uniform
He should offer without you even asking
I would itemise everything u buy and send to him for half
As if you don’t u are setting the precedent for her future school years to let him off
And high school is a different level 💵 to primary school
Yes 100%
Yes as its still his child, I would say he should be going at least 50/50.
I have 3 kids with my ex he pays for one kid I do the other and we split the 3rd one,ask him to buy a couple of things she needs of her list that she’ll need and ask around you maybe able to get a blazer abit cheaper some places have a uniform shop that help parents out normally its in your local church xx
Ask him. He’s the other parent and it seems a fair request.
Whats the harm in just asking? The worst that can happen is he says no. If that happens you then have the decision as to whether you seek professional advice. At least give him a chance first. Explain to him that the high school uniform is way more expensive than the previous school, plus shoes and trainers start to go up in price with the larger sizes.
He should be contributing regardless… If he don’t see her that don’t give him immunity to pay for his child lovely 💗 id just simply message and say she needs uniform and that he will need to contribute to the costs…don’t ask him because it’s not optional for you so it’s not optional for him, he should have offered regardless 💗