Could I have a private post please,
Recently split with babies father, and I’m just really struggling not in terms of the breakup just with myself.
I never get time to myself, all I ask is for one day a month that he could have him overnight so I could get things done he won’t allow me that he doesn’t pay me a penny towards the baby (not that I care I would rather he didn’t as he would hold it over my head) I just need a break now and again. He is not having him out of spite just so that I can’t do things for myself he was very manipulative and verbally aggressive when I was with him any advice would be lovely?
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as above 100% kick his ass to csa and make him pay then unless he contacts you over seeing the baby don’t bother with him, use the money for a decent baby sitter for an evening or childminder by day, why shouldn’t he pay for his child
well he needs to pay until he is 21 !!! regarding care what an A hole… lucky escape for you ! x do you have family to take your baby one day / overnight occasionally ?
If he doesn’t want anything to do with his child then you can’t make him and also if your not interested in him paying towards his child then just don’t force him too and then he can’t hold it against you and you don’t have to have him in your child’s life. I know that’s not going to solve the point you need time to yourself but you don’t want him to think you can’t look after your child as your wanting him to have him once a month.
Unfortunately you cant make him look after his children, maybe ask a family member to look after them once a month, and phone CSA he should be paying
I understand you don’t want anything from him but contact CMS and put money away for your kids future
invest in a good babysitter
i feel ya if he is like my kids Dad , invest in a good babysitter sitter now
move on except he is a wanker he isn’t gonna change now
been there and done it i learnt the hard way just get on with it without him. it sounds harsh but true