Can I please ask if you do see this you could post anonymous im desperate for some guidance. Thank you.
So back ten years ago my sister passed away and id taken on her two small children while I had my own son. I was 23 at the time so quite young. The first year was challenging trying toi navigate life with two 4 year olds and a 6 year old alone. Fast forward to my eldest nephew turning 15. His behaviour started to prove challenging getting into trouble at school. Skipping classes. Not attending his extra help classes and being a absolute pain. To the point where I nearly lost my job where I was in and out like a ping pong ball picking him up. Then the trouble started when hed meet with a few friends. On a community page local to us about him and his mates up to no good but hed swear it wasnt him. Even with cctv in his face. I’d then kept him home and told him I wont tolerate it. Then I let him out again to stay a a friends house then later found out hed smoking cannabis with his mates older brother. Then he got a girlfriend and started acting aggressive snappy and then started skipping college toilet the point where they kicked him out where he didnt attended enough. He was also given cool down for 48 hours days prior as hed threatened to pull a girl head scaft off. Please I am not racist and my nephew is tanned so not white. He was absolutely not taking responsibility and said staff lied. When of course they didnt. I’d removed him phone and went on it. The I found hed been watching murder videos on tick tock. Discussed this our family gp and they said its common with teens apparently they all watch it. I found texts to his girlfriend telling her how much he hates me that im controlling and child abusive because he is grounded when hes miss behaving. 😔 he told my partner he hates me. He wishes I never looked after him when my sister died. He would of had a better life in care. Iv poured my life into him. I found out over the weekend when I went to a wedding and him and my son stayed at their nans that hed taken my son on a walk hes now 14 and ask my son if he even liked me. An told my son im an abuser ect. My son said no mums not she wants o best for you. Problem is hes pushed my son off the top of a bunk bed on purpose when my son was 2 and broke my sons foot and lied and said my sun jumped. I dont trust my nephew he hates me and I dont know why. Please help had anyone else been through this. Uk mum,
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