Can I have a private post please 🙏.
I’ve been with my partner for nearly 11years. We have 2 small children together and honestly I’m at my wits end with him….
H has always been a drinker but for the past 3 years or so ( since his mum passed). He drinks every night and mostly all weekend to the point he passes out on the couch before the kids are even in bed!….
He admits he is a functional alcoholic but says he is fine. He changed jobs a few years back and point blank refuses to tell me how much he earns and only gives me a set amount each week. We are now in massive trouble with UC as he hasn’t been declaring his income (UC are aware and are dealing with it). He has always lead me to believe he was earning x amount when it turns out he has been earning nearly double that.
Our lb is nearly 2 and has gdd. He blames me for this saying I must have done something during pregnancy to make him this way. This was like a dagger in the heart to me. I do absolutely everything for our kids, school run, cooking cleaning, take our son to all his medical appointments. He does absolutely nothing to help….
Every time I try and talk to him about how I’m feeling or problems that’s happening it cause an argument and he walks off. We’re both over 40 … Is it time to call a day on this relationship? I can’t keep going on like this day after day. He missed our son’s birth, he never did a night feed nappy change with either of our kids. Has anyone got advice? I feel trapped as he is earning and I’m a stay at home mum. I don’t want to split up my family but this can’t go on. How do you help someone who doesn’t want to be helped.
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