Can I have a pp please.
Posting anonymously because people aren’t always very nice and I need to also think of my safety.
Been with OH for few years now. He is financially controlling and abusive and emotionally abusive. I’m always walking on egg shells. Nothing I do is enough or right, I am often told I am a failure and I’m told I’m this and that. Today he has (not for the first time) left me and our toddler at home while he goes to work (he has the money) and left us with no food in the house, and no diesel in “his” vehicle to get around and I know it’ll be that he starts later because there is no food, no fuel yet he will no doubt have his snacks, his cold drinks, his tobacco amongst other things I probably shouldn’t write here
I’ve exhausted all options. I accessed a food bank last week and that’s just about ran out apart from odd tins I can’t make anything from. I have no family or friends for help or support. Sat in my half empty house all day crying because I don’t know what to do. Half empty because started moving and still waiting for his help with moving stuff… when I mention that I get had a pop at. I’m hungry, I’m tired and I’ve had enough. Has anyone else been in this situation? What help is there for a mum and toddler with nothing because of these reasons
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This is coercive control and financial abuse my lovely. You need to speak to womens aid xxx
Where abouts are you?! I’ll happily come and get you and take you for some shopping or out for lunch. You need to prioritise yourself and your baby forget him don’t live your life unhappy we’re only hear once why should you be subject to that. He’s a waste of space. X
If u really want to leave find a women n child refuse centre that way u can try starting over n he can’t no where u r
Please get support from
https://womensaid.org.uk/
Today. Sending love and strength x
Go to your local Women’s Aid shelter. They can help 🍀
You could get in touch with women’s aid or other similar services. They will help you. You don’t have to live like this. Been there, got the t-shirt . I hope you get some help and out from under his spell.
Get in touch with One Stop. . I think they are in Kingston ( they can advise you )
Have you any family support? This is seriously not ok. Get in touch with your local council and try and get some legal advice, good luck x
I’m not being mean but stern….leave…this will get worse and this isn’t the way you are your child should be living…your child shouldn’t have to grow up thinking this is normal, are you able to leave the house when he’s at work? If so, I’d contact a friend or your parents, explain what’s been going on and see if they can put you in a hotel for a night so he can’t find you…call the police…explain the situation…reach out to women’s refuge I know that it doesn’t feel like it right now but there are SO many services that can help you get out of this…I’ve been there as have many others, be strong xx
You’re asking the wrong question….. so here.
National domestic abuse hotline, contact your local council, email or call woman’s aid. You could even call the police and they’ll get you somewhere safe and help you with the council forms and such.