Hi, please could you post anonymously for me.
I’m keen to hear from others who perhaps don’t have a ‘conventional’ relationship and how it works for you.
Back story. Was with my ex for 10 years. We have a 2 year old. He has a teenage daughter from previous relationship, I have 2 teenage daughters from a previous relationship.
We never quite got the blended family situation to a point where everyone was happy, relaxed etc.
I struggled with his daughter. No need for long explanations but basically the whole family dynamic wasn’t great and since I split with my ex, I haven’t missed my ‘step daughter’ at all.
But here’s where I feel conflicted… I do think me and my partner could work again, we could enjoy each other and our little one. But I have no desire to bring everyone back together.
We both now have our own homes. Our little one is mostly with me but sees her Dad at some point each week.
Has anyone been in a situation where you are in a relationship but continue to live in separate houses and don’t necessarily integrate all areas of your lives (as in older children).
Keen to hear thoughts, and please be kind!
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This is exactly what I wish me and my ex had done. We get on so much better in separate homes, our communication and co parenting is great and even have nice days out with our kids together now. Hopefully it all works out one day 🤞
I think problems will arise if you exclude his daughter
Its a hard one, but i wouldn’t want a relationship with someone and other family not included, to me its selfish.
Believe me I understand problems with children at first hand.