Hi can I have a private post please I have two girls 4 and 5 my ex partner has just introduced them to his new girlfriend where do I stand with that do I just have to put up with it are can I stop this as he doesn’t have any bond with our kids he has even forgot to come to our child’s birthday party and only turns up when it suites him I was thinking he needs to build a bond himself with out bringing his girlfriend into it sorry for the long post
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Offer him supervised contact as he clearly not putting kids first and if not hardly seeing them the girlfriend should not be in the picture when he not making effort with his own kids. He never forgot kid. Birthday truth is he never wanted to go. Stand your ground
There’s nothing you can do, you didnt stop contact or go to court before so hes obviously not a risk, so even if you do it now through mediation he will still be allowed to bring her around the kids eventually. It stops nothing if there is no risk to the kids its just petty adult nonsense. now it seems like you’re only doing this because of his new gf you’re coming across petty af.
There is nothing u can do about it if he has pr
As bad as it sounds he may bond more now hes got a partner xxxxx
Honestly if you’re that concerned about his bond and lack of parenting skills you should be addressing that first, now it just looks to them that you’re jealous of the new gf. Perhaps she’s amazing and will encourage him to be a better father? Who knows. Some step parents can be positive influences. 🙏
Might hwlp him be a better dad. Maybe you can ask meet her too
If you go to mediation you can put things in place. Not forever but can make sure he focuses on building a bond first before bringing in the gf. Also how long they been together? A gf who’s new shouldn’t be around them x
There is nothing you can do really unless you go mediation and make a set schedule for him have the kids for example 1 night a week set day if he doesn’t stick to it write it down. Have him take them for tea also 1 night after nursery/school so it gets him involved in the education side of picking them up and taking them for tea.
He has PR so if this went to court judge would say that’s his time with them
And who he has around that’a down to him but would tell him he needs to make a bond with them.