No one Turned Up To His Birthday Party

Hi I have sent a card along with a little something for your son! My brother has Asperger syndrome and your story really touched me! Its always a struggle to fit in but this is awful what happened to your son! I hope he has a lovely day! Lots of love Lindsay ,Archie and Harvey xxx

I can sympathise totally – one of my sons has always struggled to have a group of friends, and cannot remember the last time he was invited to any birthday parties, which is heartbreaking, since last year he had his very first one, and friends came but he never gets invites, and it is so hard to explain to him.

We will definitely be sending a birthday card … everyone should be made to feel special on their birthday!

This makes my heart break! What a lovely photo of your son! I can’t understand why parents would behave in this way. It’s not teaching their own children about being inclusive or accepting that we are all different. It actually seems they are totally ignorant of autism. How grown people can do this to a child is beyond me. I hope Ben has a wonderful 11th birthday and spends it with the people that matter xx

Hi Lisa,
Your story touched my heart, I have a little boy (2 years old) and I could never imagine how heart broken he would be if nobody came to his birthday party 💔
We live in Portugal and there is no way our card would arrive in time for Bens birthday.

So just wanted to wish Ben a most amazing birthday, may all your dreams come true. You are an amazing young man and you have a mommy that loves you very much.
Sending you lots of hugs and kisses by air mail,
From Tamara, Adir & Johnny ❤️

we will send him a little something

Hi Lisa.

I co-run a youth theatre based in Southampton, and we would like to invite Ben and yourself to our summer show that we are performing on Saturday. It is at Itchen College in Southampton and is at 2pm. It is the Disney show Camp Rock. If you would like to come, could you please let us know so we can put some tickets by for you.

Sarah Lubbock

Lisa, this is such a sad story. I will certainly send Ben a birthday card and share on fb. We have an 8 year old high functioning autistic child in our congregation at church and he is a delight! Clever, funny, direct, even thoughtful. Ignorance can make it difficult to respond to such a child and I’m still learning. I was recently lent the book The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night time which opened my eyes to some of the way autistic people see the world. When there is some much more openness about conditions, syndromes, LGBT etc I find it worrying that more children and parents have so little understanding. I trust it will get better for Ben at his next school, if not in this one.

Hi Lisa

Please can you email me, I’m the charity manager from Wave 105 Cash for kids

sam.tanner@wave105.com

Hi Lisa… This broke my heart when I heard it this morning. I would hate to think of my grandchildren being in Ben’s position. Can’t believe the school is letting this happen and why they are not doing more to get others to interact with Ben. A card is in the post with a little something from my 5 grandchild. Only wish it could be more x

Something is in the post. I’ve got high-functioning autism and in my recent autobiography ‘Look Into My Eyes’ I share about similar experiences from my childhood including no-one attending the only birthday party my mum ever arranged for me, she said after no-one turned up that she wasn’t going to arrange another one in the future (I also spoke about this on a recent BBC Radio interview).

I am now happily married, self-employed as an author and YouTuber (having struggled in different employments and facing discrimination) and highly respected for my psychological therapy and cold and family therapy skills, and I spend my time trying to help others and to help people (and those on the spectrum) to see the strengths and positives in those with autism and realise their potential (those with high-functioning autism can make great therapists because of their unique skill set)

All the best

Dan

Hi Lisa, that is so heartbreaking, why would other parents be so cruel not to tell their children to go, my son wouldn’t dream of not going to any child’s party who has autism, not by me telling him to go, but understanding how and why the children are different and that it’s not something contagious or its their fault, my son is 9 and is fine, but it doesn’t stop me finding out about it and passing this information on to my son, as he has boys in his class with it, he wouldn’t dream of leaving them out, we will be sending Ben a card and every year when it is, hope all goes well this year and he has the best birthday ever 🎈🎉🎁🎂 Kath xx

I will see send a card.
Very sad story. God bless him always. ❣

Hi Lisa,

I have come across this on Facebook and work with young people with varying special needs (Autism, Aspergers, et al) at a college called WAC Arts in Camden, London. I am a Cancerian also (July 20th)! We have a Saturday session for a young group and I would love to record a message from us all and send it on Saturday 15th. Maybe I can just post it on the college’s Facebook wall and you can show it to Ben when suits? Or I can send it directly via e-mail or another way?

https://www.facebook.com/WacArts/

(Another) Ben

Hi! I’m a teacher in a designated special provision this story really broke my heart – we will send a card 🙂 I hope your son has a fantastic birthday! Rebecca xxx

Hi Lisa

This story breaks our hearts here. We don’t want to use this as a marketing excuse so we will simply say we hope Ben enjoys his present in Monster paper and a skater boy card.

We wish Ben a fantastic Birthday! Keep strong. Sometimes the different people make the biggest difference to the world!

David & Nicky at TC

Hi Lisa

We have sent a card for Ben hope he has a wonderful birthday think he might be spending the day opening a lot of post. We have also included something a little special i the card for him.

Ben’s story about broke my heart. There’s a card in the mail for him today, I hope – as my card said – he has a truly magical birthday xxx

Can I ask if there is anything your son particularly likes? My grandson is really into trains and I know a lot of autistic children have a fixation on a certain hobby (my friends son loves pylons!). I would love to make him a card but would like to personalise it with something he’d really enjoy! Please email me shirley.worth@hotmail.co.uk

We’ve sent him a card, hope he has a lovely day

I have sent a card for your little boy Ben and I hope he has the most wonderful birthday this year ❤️ Xx

I’ll be sure to send a card reading this was heartbreaking

Donna x

Birthday card in the post. Hope he has a great 11th birthday.

I will send card my nephew never gets invited to party’s so sad love them all 😘

HI Lisa, so sorry to read this sad story.Shy don’t you have another party and I’m sure people on here would turn up and make it special. Good luck. X

HI Lisa, so sorry to read this sad story. Why don’t you have another party and I’m sure people on here would turn up and make it special. Good luck. X

I too have an autistic son, he was never “bothered” about parties but I can see why Ben would be so upset that no one turned up, I will send a card tomorrow xxx

Hi Lisa,

I hope this year is very special for your son Ben,this touched my heart. I have posted his card my daughter who is nearly two drew him a picture and a little something for Ben.
Your an amazing mummy hope you all have an amazing day!!!

Hugs and kisses 💙💙💙💙💙

I’ve just sent a card with a little gift. I’d love to know when you receive it so if you can contact me on @blessbabe on Twitter that would be great. I’ve shared it with friends and work colleagues so hope Ben gets lots of cards!

Hi Ben,
It’s also my daughter’s bday on 15th July. We will have a bouncy castle, soft play and ride ons. You and your family are more than welcome to come and share the day with us.

I live in Oxfordshire, it’s a bit of a drive…however, my offer still stands. Bee’s mum, if you can’t make it then dm via Twitter @Merenwin and I’ll send a card and gift

Thanks

Hi Lisa!

I would like to send Ben a little something with his card too, is there anything in particular that he is keen on? My email is emma.morgan2@hotmail.com if you wanted to let me know. And if Ben was ever to have another party, I for one will be there with bells on. 🙂

Emma

I too have high functioning autism.

It does get better, I’m 33 now and I have wife and son that I love to pieces.

Aww bless this sweet little boy we will send a card hun I work in a card shop so will get one tommorrw I have two friends with children with autism my heart goes out to your sweet boy ❤

I will send a card, my little boy has the same 😢. Today he came out of school and said he feels sad because no one sat next to him at lunch time and no one will play with him in the playground. It breaks my heart.

Aww bless him, such a handsome lad! Life and the world can be so cruel sometimes! I truly hope Ben has a fantastic birthday! My son will be 11 soon, we live in Bournemouth and often visit Portsmouth, if you email me your details it would be nice to meet up with the boys when we come down and then maybe they can become friends!

jo_batcock@hotmail.com

I will post his card tmow xx

My 10 year old son Tye has read your story & he is gonna send ben a bday.. bought a tear to my eye how kids can be so cruel.. have an amazing bday ben x please if your in verwood/ ringwood area in the summer hols tye has said he would love to play football wiv ben I’ll leave my email please get in touch Lisa xx

Hi. I have sent a card so hopefully he gets it! The parents of those other kids should know better! Hope he has a wonderful day! I have also shared this to help spread the word!

Kerry Page

Follow Ben Birthday Surprize :

http://uknip.co.uk/2017/07/help-needed-after-selfish-parents-blank-boy-with-autism-birthday-party/

as I live local is it ok to drop a card round? I’m part of a motorcycle club so could come round on my bike but wouldn’t want to frighten Ben! if you could let me know 🙂

I will be sending a card tomorrow, wishing Ben the best and most surprising 11th birthday! Sending love&hugs from me and my little man Toby x

Hi Lisa! We would love to attend Ben’s party but we live miles away, pls let us know what Ben likes so we can send him a bday present with a card.
Alice

I’ll be posting a card tomorrow, I hope he has a wonderful birthday on Saturday…reading this has brought a tear or two to my eyes. Xx

Its so sad people doing this i cant imagine how that made u feel 😇Im just hoping this time to be the one he remembers snd if i lived close to u i was goung to show up with my little girl sge have autistic friend she lives and Lisa i think i was going to go outside and just invite people from the street with there kids on the party i want be able to look at him like that and ours is aways near the park so many kids there and just do the party to remember I really hope this year for him to be different and it will 🤗I just sow the post and i ll make my daughter Emma to make him a card and send it i hope it arrives at time Bless u guys and have a great birthday party 🎉

my son also has high functioning autism and your story really touched my heart no child should be made to feel this way so i have sent a card from my son hope ben likes it and has a fantastic birthday xx

Hi,

My daughter’s bday party is on the same day as Ben’s. Ben and your family are invited to join us. We’re based in Oxfordshire…they’ll be bouncy castle, soft play and ride ons.

If you’re interested then dm me via Twitter @merenwin.

Otherwise, just let me know what Ben likes and I’ll send him something

The parents of those children should be ashamed of themselves what message are they sending to their children, cards in the post x

Hi there. I’ve sent a card in the post. I hope it reaches him in time as I only saw this post today. 🙂

Hi Lisa, this is so sad and broke my heart, we will be sending a card for sure and wish there was more we could do, is there anything in particular he likes?
Do you have an fb page we can post him a special birthday wish?

Love Kirsty, Paul, Elyssa and Eilidh Murray xx

I was gutted for your son and for you, I cannot imagine the hurt you must have gone through! The parents that did not respond to the party invite should be ashamed of themselves, total lack of respect! I cannot imagine what was going through their minds! Ben deserves so much more! I hope it is a Birthday to remember, I have card ready to post! X

Lisa hello, my son would like to I invite Ben to his 11th birthday in September in London. Please email me on dundypass@gmail.com xx

Card and present sent, I thought “what would I have liked at his age” and there it was! 🙂 I really understand how he would feel as I had the same thing happen when I was younger, my mum had to quickly invite my cousins and their friends. (I have Aspergers). Hope he has a great birthday

I’ve seen this post twice on Facebook with two different birthdates??? I really hope this post is genuine 😕

Hi Lisa,
A card is on the way! I’ve also shared this on my works Twitter and I’ve had lots of promises of cards being sent from various Police Forces across the country! Hope Ben has a wonderful day 💙 @ssgt4800

Is this real?? Please can someone confirm?

I have sent a card this is such a sad thing to hear. Hope he is able to enjoy his birthday.

OMG my heart is aching thinking of you and Ben and the horrendous experience you have had. How rude are the parents of the children in Ben’s class. Coping with the stress and worry of a child with any disability on a daily basis is bad enough let alone coping with the ignorance and intolerance of other people. The world is a much better place with our children in it and Ben will continue to shine. We hope Ben and your family enjoy this and every other birthday. Card in the post. If these cards are well received and a positive for Ben let us know and we can send one every year, have a FAB day. From his friends in Liverpool.

To read this this morning broke my heart .I know what it feels like to feel alone and lonely.your son is beautiful;shame on all the fools that can not see this,he is so beautiful.will b sending a card with all my love to you Ben and yourself.xxx

Hi Lisa,
My name is Kate Day and I run a company called Chocolate Muffin Publishing. I would like to offer Ben a book writing and publishing course for young writers. We specialise in working with children with autism. Please email me at kateday@chocolatemuffinpublishing.com
Very best wishes,

Kate

Hi Lisa

We live near you – the Marina side of Bransbury Park. I find this totally heartbreaking. If you’re free on Sunday and fancy popping to the park for an hour so Ben can play with my two (they’re 7 and 4), we’d love to meet up. Or the skatepark? Whatever works for Ben. Drop me an email to claire.chaplin@gmail.com a

Hi Lisa, will send a card from Ireland. What a gorgeous boy. You’re so courageous God bless you. He’s lucky to have such a super mum.

Love from Ireland

Maeve xxxx

My son also has Aspergers and when he was younger went to a school that had a unit for children in the autism spectrum. The unit was in the grounds of the main primary school. What the head master of the school done was got the children from main stream classes to act as buddies to the children in the unit, they came over to talk with them and to be with them out in the playground so they were not alone. I hope that your son has a great birthday this year.

Hi , this is just heartbreaking. What ignorant and selfish parents. Children learn to be bigotry from their parents. We will send Ben a card and a present. Please could you let me know what he’s keen on farah@tiroselect.com as we’d like to give him something he would really like. He’s lucky to have an amazing mum like you. I hope he has a fantastic day. X

Have posted Ben a birthday card – really hope this birthday is memorable for all the right reasons!

Hi, I am contacting you from a company based in Gosport and we’d love to do something special for Ben. We will send a birthday card regardless, but can you tell me if Ben likes cars at all? If so, does he have a favourite car? We are an automotive company, so there may be something we can arrange for Ben’s big day if this is something he is in to. I look forward to hearing from you!

Sent the birthday boy a card! hope he has a great day

Lisa, does he have any specific interests? We would like to send him a gift.

Thanks,

Zadie

I own a US police cruiser, I’m too fat away but 2 of friends have cruisers too and live in Portsmouth. If you want to let me know by e-mail where the party is, I’ll ask them to pop along. chevyinterceptor911@outlook.com hope you and lovely son have a super day!

I own a US police cruiser, I’m too far away but 2 of my friends have cruisers too and live in Portsmouth. If you want to let me know by e-mail where the party is, I’ll ask them to pop along. chevyinterceptor911@outlook.com hope you and lovely son have a super day!

Hi there
This is horrible to say the least parents must be ashamed! What is Ben into I would like to send him a present also please can you contact me at earliest convenience many thanks xxxx

Hi Lisa, Abigail my 10 years old daughter and myself heard Ben’s story on our way to school yesterday and we were so moved… ! Ben is a wonderful lovely looking boy and deserves to be spoilt like anyone else on his birthday especially! We are sending him a card with a little present in today’s post. Abigail put her picture in his card and please tell Ben that he is welcome to correspond with her should he wishes to as we wrote our address on the enveloppe. All the best and HAPPY 11th BIRTHDAY to Ben 🎁🎂👏🎈

All sent hope he enjoys his card and he has a lovely day !!! 🙂

Such a sad situation for Ben to have had no friends at his party :(. I hope this year he has the best day. We have send him a card from us from Worthing :).
X

Just sent some binoculars to the wee lad, I tried to send a message with it but wasn’t sure if it sent… Buy anyway, Binoculars from me Neil Hickson and my family Liz (33) Asa (4) Azalea (2) and Aaliyah (0)

I know presents not the same as being there, but, hope he enjoys them!

Hi Lisa, sent a card and a little something for him – should be delivered on Thursday this week so hope you get it.
Best wishes
Carrie

Hi,

I found your post via twitter and can’t help but think that Potential Plus would be able to help both Ben and yourselves; we are the UK’s only charity that specialises in helping gifted / talented / dual and multi exceptional children. I’ve put down the charity’s website address below, but you can always contact me direct if you’d like to speak to further – lee.collins@potentialplusuk.org

United We Conquer

Card on it’s way too from us Dallow’s from Leicestershire!! We all lead busy lives and sometimes forget the important things in life and that’s caring for others – life can be very sad for children but hope your next birthday is better.
We love a good party, wish you were closer my children would have love to come and help you enjoy your Birthday. Happy Birthday for the next one Ben! xx

Hi Lisa,

Card in the post for lovely Ben, I’ve just qualified to be a primary school teacher and often see the difficulties that children with high functioning autism face in relation to making friends. I hope he enjoys his special day and is ready to open lots and lots of cards and gifts. We are all different in this world, but it’s our differences that makes us unique. Hopefully, this birthday will help him forget his previous birthday and that awful experience. No child deserves to experience that, I hope he truly enjoys his birthday! If Ben ever needs anything, don’t hesitate to email me! suux@hotmail.co.uk

Ones on its way for him, hope he has a better birthday this year x

For Ben’s mother:

https://plus.google.com/u/0/117910958574812110111/posts/YMwhBMNiia6

Lisa, I am the mother of a now 19 yr old boy. He does not have autism. However, I remember his worries about being un-liked or nobody turning up to his parties when younger. Although this never happened to him, I found it almost unbearable that he should think this way. I will send Ben a card which I hope arrives on time. No child should have the agony of nobody turning up for their party, of thinking they have no friends. Lots of love to you all as a family and I hope Ben’s birthday this year is wonderful. Emma xx

I am sending a card and a small pressie
I have also shared the post as well. I am autistic too and hope he has a wonderful day xx

Hi Lisa, this story is just heart wrenching, we have a card for Ben, we would love to send a small gift, could you please let me know at your earliest convenience what kind of things Ben likes? amanda_hall5@sky.com 😊

A card is on the way 🙂 If you let us know what he likes, I’ll try and pop a small gift in the post as well.
I had a very similar experience for my tenth birthday – as a (then undiagnosed) ASD child, I had problems understanding and relating to my peers, and they with me. Things will get better. It may take time, but I hope you can tell Ben that things will get better – and he will find friends who care. It just sometimes takes some of us a little longer to find them. I hope he has an amazing, special day Lisa.

Please ring me 07725940045 I am from Bournemouth and would like to talk to you regarding a little birthday suprise.

Regards
Ray.

There are moments of great anguish, but from my experience you are feeling the pain more than he does. He seems a beautiful sensible loving person who has plenty to offer the world. Please do not worry too much: the world will notice. My son is now 17, still doesn’t socialise much. By that age your son will be more aware of the uniqueness of his mind and aptitudes and he will be rewarded for those. The only thing i would change now is how anxious I was then. It will pan out, all the best.

I’m so sorry this happened to your son! He’s a handsome boy with beautiful eyes and an amazing smile!

I’m housebound so can’t send a card through the post but if you are happy to let me know your/his email address I will definitely send him an ecard! Sounds like your postman/woman is going to be snowed under with cards for Ben just by reading these comments and seeing it shared on Facebook!

Hi there

This is heartbreaking was is bens interests as I would like to get him a gift from my son kodi and I please let me know can email @ jessrollings123@gmail.com

Xxxx

Card sent, hoping Ben has a lovely birthday xx

Moonpig for the win , We’re in Australia so the only way to get something there in time was with them , I hope Ben has his toothbrush at the ready .. he might need it 😉
Sarah , Anthony , Harry , Kieran & Cherry

Hi I’m part of a MC group does your son like motorcycles? I can try and organize us to turn up and give him some cards and a look at our bikes etc, we’re currently doing a fund raising ride for cancer that day but will see if we can pop by if you like? Cheers Alex from UK Zed Headz.

You’ve absolutely done me here. There’s a little something on the way for Ben. He is going to have the best birthday ever!

Hi Lisa,

Do you already have a cake lined up? If not, I’ll be happy to bake and bring his favourite.

hugs,
Elisabeth

I am not a mum, but my heart goes out to Ben. I also live in the U.S. and am just now reading this, so there’s no way a personal card could get to Ben in time for his birthday.

Instead, I’ll pass on to him a legacy of sorts. Ben, you share a first name with my maternal grandfather. You share a heart of gold with him as well. Use it for good, in whatever form that takes. Everyone has a different path. You WILL find yours.

Be well and have a wonderful birthday!

Sincerely,
Debby Hanoka
Boca Raton – Florida – USA

We are about to go and post Bens card my son is ADHD and o.d.d and he is upset at the way poor Ben has been treated xx

Ben, would have loved to send you a card but i know it will come to late. So here is a birthday greeting to you from The Netherlands. I am a grown up with austism and just want to say to you are wonderful and unique and brilliant and so much more. Don’t let the bullies get to you because you are so much better than them. The friends will come, trust me, it may be late but they will come. And for the silly kids in your class, i feel pitty for them for losing out on your friendship because they are missing a good thing. Love Jessica

I put my card in the post today. I hope he has a fab day opening all of them.
A friend of mine has a son who is Autistic, we recently sent him a bunch of cards, he was 12 and as far as I am away he was totally made up so I can only imagine how this will make your little guy feel!
all the best Lesley and Family. x

Card made and sent… wishing Ben a very Happy Birthday… I’ve spread the word and hope he gets thousands on Saturday morning.. Bless you Lisa, he looks a lovely lad. Other children loss.

I know I don’t know you or Ben but this brought tears to my eyes reading it… No child deserves what happened to your son… Sent you a card for Ben… I hope he has the best birthday ever.. Give him a massive hug from me too please x

Do you have an Instagram account? can we send Birthday wishes there from the USA? I would like to rally fans of my Instagram to wish your boy the best Happy Birthday Ever…

Good Luck, and Happy Birthday in advance.

May The Force Be With Ben Always….

Smooth @smoothimperial

My son and I have sent a balloon. Hope it arrives in time.
I have shared this story with my six year old in the hope it will help him remember to always be kind. His face lit up when I told him we’d sent a balloon.
I hope he has a great day.

Hey Ben hope you have a great day mate. Card on it’s way. Gareth

I just have read this now and I totally understand my son has ADD and epilepsy and …you know for yourself. We will put things together and send it asap I hope will reach You on 15th gorgeous boy btw so handsome xxx

Hi Ben hope you have a lovely day .xxx

Hi Lisa.

I’m really touched by this story and wondered if you wouldn’t mind contacting me privately? I design and sell posters and would love to either send him one or make something for him on his birthday. I have a 6 year son with Autism, Aspergers and ADHD so this story really hits home for me. I’ll leave my contact details and if you can get in touch I would love to send him something.

Kind Regards.
Barry.

Hi

Sent a card and a little something. As someone grown with HFA I know how difficult life can be when you’re young and other people don’t see the world the way you do. Wishing Ben the best in meeting people who can see the world as he sees it and will be his friends.

In the meanwhile I hope gets all the cards he deserves and gets to see that people are thinking of him. Hope Ben has a smashing Birthday!

It’s a real shame, unfortunately we wouldn’t be able to make it due to work but have shared this on our cosplay page. All fingers crossed for Ben and we hope he has a fantastic day!

Postcard on route Happy 11th Birthday Ben… sometimes we get too wrapped up in our own stuff to realise how important the small things are… big hugs…

The stormtroopers and other members will be coming and we will be sending gifts as well from the U.S.A.

One of my son’s best friends at school has special educational needs. My son started the school in April of year 1 and soon developed a strong friendship with his boy. His one on one helper at school told me how strong of a bond they both have together even after only knowing each other 3 months.

Last week at sports day, my son and another friend had their final ‘race’ with this boy but had fixed it with the teacher and headteacher so that he could win and feel special. All the other boys in the class didn’t want to do it as they wanted a proper race. His one on one teacher was in tears as I was too watching my son doing that for his best friend.

Fast forward 5 years, Now they finish primary school next week and find out tomorrow if they are in the same form in high school. Fingers crossed. Hopefully he will find real friends.

Card is on the way from my son, his Facebook friend.

Happy birthday sweetheart!

Happy Birthday special precious boy. Lots of love xx

What does he enjoy? I will try and send a little present. Im nurotypical but had the same thing happen to me when I was much older and it hurt like hell. The thing is that now I am a weird happy little person with more friends than I can keep track of and they value me for all the things that made it hard to make friends when I was younger. There is hope and I would love to pass that on through giving him a present which really reflects how cool his individual interests are.

Hi Lisa,

I am the Production Manager of Coronation Street and the cast would like to send Ben a birthday message for his 11th birthday. Please can you send me your email address. Kind regards, Lee Rayner. lee.rayner@itv.com

Hi Lisa,

My husband heard this on Wave 105 yesterday, he kept on last night for me to find your post, but I couldn’t. So glad we have. We will be sending Ben a card and a little something from us, the Rutter family in Poole. Bless his heart. I am in tears reading this. My son’s best friend has autism, he loves planes and lives for the air show. Personally, I think the school should do more for Ben so that he is inlcuded and not made to feel so alone. We hope all his dreams and wishes come true on his birthday. Melissa and Franie Rutter.

Hi Lisa, seeing this has broken my heart. Ben so deserved to have a party, those parents & children snubbing Ben’s party should be so ashamed of themselves. He deserves the same life enjoyments as other children his age. Will make him a special card.

Hi Lisa, I read this and feel heartbroken for your lovely son, Ben.
I also have a son, who just turned14yrs, with autism and he has been bullied throughout his whole school life.
To witness any child, least of all your own, go through so much turmoil when all they have to give is love and compassion is heartbreaking.
I know that Ben will have a great birthday, because you are his mum and you’ll do what ever you can and he’ll love you so much for that. So many people right now are sending their Support for #BensBirthday
Will be posting our card first thing.
Love & hugs to you both.
Amanda & Daniel x💖x

Card in the post. My son has HFA and suffered at primary school for being ‘different’. He is now 12 and much happier. I hope Ben has a fantastic birthday x

Lisa, firstly, can I say how beautiful Ben is and how heartbreaking your story is. I really don’t understand how parents wouldn’t explain their children his condition and what it means for him to make friends and be accepted. It’s beyond belief that he’s called names in school and is so mistreated, I hope the school supports you! I’ll send a card and hope it’ll arrive in time. I hope he has a fab birthday no matter what you’re doing. Lots of love to your litte angel x

Can’t imagine what poor Ben went through. Heart breaking. I’ve shared this post. I hope it brings him lots of amazing cards and hopefully lovely new friends. Card and little poster we designed is in the post. Hope he has the best day! Xx

After reading this story on Facebook, it touched my heart. I came across a reply from Ben’s mum to a comment asking what he is into. She gave examples and skimmed over the fact that Ben’s iPad is dying and she is trying to stear him into something else. I was so touched that I started a just giving page to try and raise enough to get Ben an iPad for his birthday.

Me and my son met with Ben and Lisa for the first time yesterday evening to give the fantastic news that we reached our original target to get Ben an iPad. After meeting this fantastic lad and his incredibly lovely mum, I asked what they would need to help make their lives easier. She explained that she is trying to update Ben’s bedroom to fit his sensory needs and to provide him with a safe space when he would need it.

Considering the just giving page has to be up for 30 days minimum and we’ve already smashed our target, I’ve decided to continue with the fundraising to see how much we can raise in addition to buying the iPad!

Both Ben’s mum and I would like to thank everyone who has donated or sent a card or wished Ben a happy birthday from the bottom of our hearts you have no idea how much this means to Ben

https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/bensbestbirthdayever?utm_id=64

Please join this group started by Ben’s mum! There is a link to the communal picnic at canoe lake to celebrate Ben’s birthday!!
#bensbestbirthdayever

https://m.facebook.com/groups/318448031915394?tsid=0.38834250312824126&source=typeahead

This has reached the West Midlands x Heartbreaking story 😢 As a Mum of two boys and someone who works with children I felt really moved reading this. I will be sending a card your way x I hope your son has the best birthday ever x

Oh dear lord whats wrong with the parents who didnt RSVP to your invitation last year. What’s wrong with the parents who did and then didn’t turn up. Disbelief.

Hope he has a lovely birthday this year. X

When my daughter was in year 1 many years ago, there was a lad in her class who had ADHD and was on the autism spectrum. Everyone, including this little boy was invited to her 6th birthday party and on the day he arrived at the venue with his parents who proceeded to hug us when introduced. His mum ended up in tears and excused herself. Her husband apologised for her then explained her tears to my husband and I. Their little boy had never been invited to a party before because of his behaviour, not even when he was at playschool. I was shocked! Ok, he was a handful, but I’d never in a million years of not invited him or rejected an invitation from him or any child with his differences. Adults continue to anger me with their cruelty and intolerance which they then pass on to their children. I will send Ben a card when I get home from holiday tomorrow. Happy birthday beautiful boy. xxx

Hope you have a nice birthday. We’ve sent a card and little present x

So not to be the doom sayer here but has anyone confirmed if this is even real? I have a five year boy with an ASD and likewise he has no friends but I wouldn’t go plastering on the internet asking for people to send cards, I certainly wouldn’t broadcast my address all over the world and finally not to be a complete arse but an electoral check shows no one with the surname of Jackson living at the address given and facebook shows no results for a Lisa Jackson fitting this description in Portsmouth.

Has anyone received a reply from this woman?

Is this a self pity begging letter ?
Putting your address at the bottom !!!!
Probably not even true , I have autistic children in the family, they go to special school with other kids the same (as yours will do) and never had or heard of this from any other mum’s at party times as we all know what it’s like and what our child or family member is like, so everyone goes along and support each other and supervises their child during the party, never any issues !
Everyone knows what to expect !
I DO NOT buy this sob story at all , don’t send her anything ! #bigcon

Have sent a card with a little something
Hope ben has a great day xxxxxx

Card sent yesterday. Hope it gets there on time. What a great idea to reach out, I hope he will have a fantastic birthday! Lots of Love 🙂 x

…….READ FIRST …..
DO NOT GET SUCKED IN TO THIS CONN !
I very much believe this is a conn to suck kind hearted people in like yourselves .
Parents with children going through the same issues DO NOT want or need pitty , they don’t need anymore then someone to hear / listen to them and understand how things are from their point of view without criticising… that’s all.
Think about it …. who would honestly put their address / contact details online for everyone to see (WOULD YOU ?) if it wasn’t just for financial gain !!!

This has been shared on the 1st facebook scout page. Everyone is wishing your son a happy birthday and we all hope he has an amazing day ❤

Posted on the Worldwide Scouting Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=1942117122731383&set=gm.10155598669749743&type=3
Lots of comments already

A Very Happy Birthday to you Ben.
Hope you have a fantastic day.
From Gary in Australia.

I feel so exited for this boy who deserves all the cards and love on his birthday.Hope he gets the best birthday ever he deserves it xxx

Card on the way 🙂

bless you i can only imagine how heartbreaking it was for you and ofcourse how it knocked your sons confidence and peaked his anxiety.I will be sending a card from myself my son matthew whose 8 and my eldest son damion whose 12 ,if my boys were invited we wouldve defo come to your party……do hope Ben has a fantastic one this time and feels happy and wanted when he receives all his bday cards from all these lovely caring people here…..Happy birthday Ben!!
Lisa you are doing a fantastic job and being so strong and trying so hard!!Just remember you are doing the best that you can and the when people let you and your son down is just a reflection of themselves,they have issues not you but also sometimes it could just be they couldnt come for reasons they couldnt help so dont always think that its because of your sons autism.Why not instead of sending out invites with your sons knowledge,invite a small group of his friends that are more likely to want to go and can make it and when they have said they will definitely be there you can surprise ben…….so if you dont get any invites back ben wont be disappointed as he wont even know the surprise

Take care
T

I am away in Iraq and have just read your message, please can I wish your lad a big happy birthday and I hope he has the biggest cake ever. 🙂 happy birthday young man x

Hi Lisa,
All that heartbreaking is in the past. Can you tell me where was that part planned to be? There are plenty factors which influence people decision to come or not. But one of them would be if it’s something interesting for kids and location, plus date of the week. Perhaps, Sat Sunday are more convenient. ..In regards to intestine party : between 2 to 12 years I would go to Pirate Centre with soft play area activities. It’s not expensive and none would dare to miss it. For example, Kassiopi Cove in Erith London. In addition, communication with people and creating friends can be beforehand. He can start to make friends online, depends on his skills and interests. I know autistic kids they can be particularly talented in something, like drawing, or music, or dancing, or even sports. He no need too many guests, let’s say even those 2 who came the last time, such a good start. Just find something in him what he is a good at, simply the best. Being an autistic guy can be a virtue, he is simply unique and it makes him a very special person. Just try to show his talents and skills, and those who did not turn up the last year birthday party will be jelous the next one, if they will miss it. Just a bit more homework for birthday party and marketing – advertise something unusual and interesting.
Please let me know where to pist Birthday Card , email or address or telephone number for a call! !!My email: yelenastad@hotmail.com
Warm wishes,
Yelena. Xx

Hi Lisa

Your story really touched my heart. I’ve put a card in the post I really hope it gets to you on time as I’ve only just read about it. I truly hope that he has a Birthday to remember this year. I’m so sorry he was made to feel the way he must of felt when no one turned. Shame on all the parents that the invites was sent to.
Best wishes

Val &a Charlie

Lisa, my son Birthday on 26th May , so in 2018 he will be 3 years old. I would like invite you with Ben to London, for his birthday, we are living near O2 North Greenwich . Before that you can come and visit us as well, just email me in advance to agree the date: yelenastad@hotmail.com.
I know my son is much younger than yours , but he is a very sociable and friendly boy and will be happy to meet both of you.
Warm wishes, Yelena.

Hey
I have posted a card and then a little gift- however as I’m abroad it will arrive with my name on it- Kathryn Willman. It’s a little gift for Ben.

My god I am a reformed gangster and that story made me cry like a little girl. It’s in the post for you love hope this and every birthday from now are truly special for him. Think everyone who was invited needs to hang their head in shame. The two who said they’d come and didn’t particularly deserve a slap though!

Hi Lisa,
Card and an autism approved gift sent for Ben. I hope he has an awesome birthday that completely erases the memory of the past. How anyone could be so cruel and unthinking to such an adorable wee boy is beyond me. I hope this also helps to reassure you that there are some decent human beings who realise that autism is not a life choice or a fashionable diagnosis and who want your beautiful son to have the birthday he deserves. I wish you and Ben a fabulous day xxx

Just sent out a card to Ben. I would love to be a fly on the wall when he sees all the cards!!! 😀😀
We hope he has the best day ❤
Shame on those parents for being a part of that. Its cruel and unecessary. Hopefully this can be a birthday he will always remember for all the right reasons xx

I sent a card. Have a nice birthday Ben! xxx

Card in the post Lisa for your beautiful boy. Hope he has an amazing birthday.

I live too far away to send a card that would arrive on time within two days, but didn’t want to leave the page without commenting. This is so heartbreaking that no one turned up to his birthday party :-(. My son has Aspergers too and the thought of him not having any friends for his birthday party makes me tear up. This said, tell Ben that he is perfect, loved and welcome the way he is, but that unfortunately quite a few people have their heart at the wrong place. Wishing him a very happy birthday 🙂

We will definitely send him a card made us cry this. Kids can be so cruel sometimes. Would be nice to know his parents names so we can follow them and see how many he got 🙂

Hi, I live too far away for a card to reach Ben in time. But I am heartened to read the fabulous response here to your request.
I am a young woman with autism. I am a gifted classical pianist and I also write and enjoy acting and drawing. In my own book about autism I point out many times that autism is a type of personality and gift, rather than a negative condition.
My own situation at school was terrible, and bullying scarred me for years thereafter. At this point I have undergone extensive therapy in order to heal. I now realise that people’s intolerance of me was actually their own intolerance of something within themselves. You are dear because you’re helping Ben to understand right now that he is not broken or defective. It is the other people’s stupid choice to shun him or not take the time to know him.
I wish Ben an enchanting birthday!

Hi Lisa i hv sent him a despicable me photo card hope he likes it when i read this story it broke my heart i wish u ben all the best for the future and a big happy bday from me let me no if u receive it by next week fnx tc x love from naz xxx

I was so sad to read Ben’s story. Although my son has never been diagnosed with Asperger’s or Autism, he struggled to make friends and was bullied because other children thought he was a little ‘odd’. It is heartbreaking as a parent to see your child suffer. I’m sure Ben will have an amazing birthday this year xxx

Hey ben it’s mine and my sons birthday too we are having a meal at 6pm on sat at the inn by the sea your welcome to join us so we can celebrate all our birthdays together my grand children will be there too so your have plenty to play with and lots of ice cream xxxx 07447818302 if you can make xx

Hi Lisa,

Ben should be recieving a little something from Australia in the next week or so. Hopefully it will contribute towards his best birthday ever.

S.

Hi Lisa,
We have sent a card for Ben, am originally from Pompey myself and was really upset after reading the story, w my wife and I have a little boy with Autism as well, I hope Ben has a really special day to remember. We haven’t put anything in the card but would like to drop off a present for Ben next time I am in Pompey.

Happy Birthday Mate
Love the Jeeves Family

I have sent a birthday card for your beautiful boy. I hope he has a wonderful birthday with the people who love him. I don’t understand why parents would be so cruel, I’d think to myself how would I feel if that was my child.

Just read this this morning on my way to get a card now. Bless him hope he has an amazing day

Hi,

Card and little first sent for your little fella.

Remember you are doing an amazing job.

All the best

I have sent Ben my love and a card, I really hope he receive it, I wish you all a wonderful day
Love
Sara from London xxxxx

Hi Ben,

Master Ben Jackson “happy birthday mate”
My name is John Magee and I am the published author of “Kindness Matters” and on behalf of me and my Facebook “Random ACTS of kindness” community, we wanted to let you know that we all have teamed up to make your birthday very special.
Do you know why we want to make your birthday very special? because you are a VERY SPECIAL boy with a very special super power and although some people may not understand your SUPER POWER we all do 🙂 and one I promise you, that we all understand just how special you are and how your super power will help lots of other people.

Happy birthday Ben.
Thank you for your Kindness.

John Magee

My card is on it’s way!
I hope he has the most amazing day. Xxxxx

Hi. I’d like to know if Ben likes Star wars lego. I know that it’s too late to send anything that would arrive on time for his special Day, but I had a talk with my kids (Amelia 6 and Stasiu 9, and they want to pull some money together from their piggy banks and get him something nice as a b-lated bday gift, and make his bday a tiny bit more special. XO

I have sent a card and lots of my friends have. Hope he has a great birthday this year.

This is just heartbreaking!! This is to Ben. Dude you are awsome an dont listen anyone that says other wise!! Children with Autism rule i have family members with Autism an i know its not easy mate but you will be better than all them mean other children but on a hood note i will be sending you a little something in the post 😘…… To mummy.. if you can see my details i would love for you to get in touch as i would love for him to come an meet my girls an attend a birthday party for my daughters 6th birthday. Much love an hugs to you both xx

Hi Lisa, I only read your post this morning and posted a card (from Orpington) straight away. I hope it will arrive in time. I always teach my 5 year old daughter to be kind to everyone no matter what and it’s such a shame that there are so many parents who don’t. My faith in people has been restored by all the lovely comments you have received. Please could you post a follow up as I am sure everyone who sent cards would like to know Ben’s reaction on his special day. Have a wonderful day 🙂

I’ve only Just seen this whole thread , will send a card , but I’ve missed the last post here , so my girls and I will get something in the post tomorrow , for you Ben, I know you will have a great birthday , everyone will make sure of it.

Dear Lisa
I have seen your post today and would have loved to send a card but it wouldn’t get there for tomorrow. No child should suffer like this and I wish for your little boy the best birthday EVER!! Happy Birthday Ben I hope it’s the best day and makes up for the other one! So glad you shared this Lisa you are a fantastic mum!!! From Gillian Bye xxx

What a gorgeous son you have! This story really touched me – here’s wishing Ben a very much happier birthday than the last one. There’s a card in the post with a very small something in it. Hopefully he’ll be able to see that lots of people do care for other people, even if they’ve never met them. Lots of love to you both xx

Catd in the post for Ben. It will artive late as only just seen this post.

My child age 10 is the same, never invited anywhere, with undiagnosed ASD (so far!). School report always said I needed to invite his peers round during holidays and after school, no one wants to. So I told the school how about you tell them to invite my son…they soon dropped it off his school report. Its so very sad and we can’t forge friendships for our kids. But they have soon much love and friendship to give when given the chance. I hope he receives many many cards.

I have only just seen this post, I will send a card. I hope you all have a great day…much love

Hi,

My i’m 16 and I have had many the same experiences as I have Dyslexia and mild autism as well. I would love to send a card, please email me at matthew.dickerson.1217@gmail.com if there is anyway I can personalise it. It may be a bit late.

Just want to say Happy 11th Birthday to Ben! Currently away on holiday and devastated I can’t send a card in time! Hope he has a wonderful day! X

Sorry it may be late but finally got round to posting something for Ben it may not be a card but its something i hope he would be able to hold on to and hopefully make him smile. Hope he has an amazing brithday and your doing great as a mum Lisa :3 x

I sent a card I hope he had a fab birthday x

Hi Lisa,
We have just read this and it’s really touched us. No child should go through that. My husband has just jumped in the car to go buy something and deliver it to you tonight so Ben has it for tomorrow.Should be with you in an hour or so. He has also put an invite in the card for Ben if he would like to come to our sons birthday in a few weeks. Hope he has an amazing day tomorrow. Look like this year he may see the true human spirit of people come out. Best wishes. x

Happy birthday Ben hope you have a great day xxx
We’ve sent you a card xxx

hello, what a story and so unfair for him….and for you, It’s also hard as a parent. He may not remember this age but parents do. Luckily, this seems not to happen in my sons school. The whole class gets invited to every birthday party and most people manage to attend. It’s such a shame it seems not more inclusive at your son’s school and the kids aren’t more open. We are more than happy to send a card for him but I’m worried now I’ve missed his birthday – when is it? From you address I’m assuming he goes to Milton Park, but is that correct? My mum used to teach there (many moons ago)
xx

Hi Lisa,

Your son history broke my hart. I wish I had seen it sooner as I would definitely had sent him a birthday card! I hope Ben is having an amazing and unforgettable birthday!

Julia

Happy birthday little man 😁. Hope youvw had a great day. Hopefully our card arrived on time

Hi Lisa

I hope Ben had a great birthday, sounds like you may have had lots of cards to open ( there was one from me in there somewhere).

Jenny

We are so sorry for this little boy, and like lots of you sent him a card, but could this be a hoax? Sorry for asking, but mum Lisa had not answered one message, I really hope not and that no one sent money 💋

Hi hun,

All my 3 kids have send card and lil something for Ben. Hope he likes it.

Given the comments above I think it’s time for Lisa to say thank you to the kind people who sent to Ben in a general message to everyone.

Given the comments above I think it’s time for Lisa to say thank you to the kind people who sent to Ben in a general message to everyone.

I’ve been told by FB that I’ve already sent this message. True, but on my timeline. It’s more use here and possibly more likely to be seen.

Hi,I hope Ben received my card? From
John,Carol and Owain from Wales x

Only just seen this: I hope Ben had a fantastic birthday!

Hi

Its Bens mum Lisa. Firstly i want to apologise for only just getting to see your comments!

I wanted to say a big big thank you from the bottom of my heart for the kindness you have shown my son Ben.

I will never ever forget it!! And neither will ben.

He had a fantastic birthday thanks to everybodies kindness and its something he will remember for the rest of my life. I am just sorry i cannot message you individually at the moment but as you can appreciate i have had literally thousands and thousands of comments, emails etc and am working my way through them all as fast as i can.

I didn’t want read and run!
Ben now has his own group page “Bens 11th Birthday Bonanza” you are all very welcome to pop over and take a look at ben opening cards, seeing what he got upto, photos, videos, special events. I will also continue to update it!

Within the group i have set up a celebrate Autism Get Together Picnic for next year so parents and children can meet, make friends and have a fun time!

And also a support group – Bens Parent Support group for children with Autism / SEN We have a lovely group of parents who would give you a warm welcome!

Thank you all once again!!

Lisa
(Bens Mum)