I screwed up. I was in my husband’s emails which I know I shouldn’t have been but I spotted a deleted email for an Only fans subscription ending. I found he’s actively been using Only fans for years. I’m really hurting.
I knew he would self love but I didn’t think he was paying for content. I feel like it’s my fault because our s-life has been pretty rubbish for a few years. Various reasons why but the biggest is our lack of village. The only time we get home alone comes at the cost of using previous annual leave.
I don’t even know what I can do with this knowledge because I shouldn’t know. 😭
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Are you sure this isnt a scam email? I feel like an email saying subscription is ending is probably phishing for payment information
This is a really hurtful one .definitely address this sooner than later. I mean put a spark back in.date nights relax meal nice romantic times music movie . 🍿 talking about the relationship and how’s he got to this. Not acceptable 🤞
I would be asking initially in a calm and collective manner. If it is true then and I was in your shoes I certainly wouldn’t be happy, for me it’s about fixing anything which is wrong and he has a part to play..so if he is going online to seek that then for me personally the ultimate disrespect unless he has tried everything but even then I wouldn’t be ok with it tbh.
It takes two but going online isn’t going to help matters and is very hurtful for anyone male or female. so you both need to sit down to see if things can be worked out etc…but for me he has gonna have to explain and provide solutions outwith as that has huge impacts. Many people see it as cheating and many marriages end due to this type of thing .
A few issues at play here
1. Subscription ending doesn’t mean he paid, he may have activated a free trial, even just to see one image or one message and decided not to continue. The fact he has ended it says a lot. I’d be approaching him in a nice way and asking what he’s seeking, what he feels is missing, how it makes you feel and how you can address this. It doesn’t need to be a horrible chat, but one to learn about each others feelings, desires and needs.
2. Why was you in his emails? On purpose? Snooping? Mistake? This needs just as much addressing as his subscription. If you was there on purpose, why? Be honest about both of your actions.
This normally all comes down to communication and understanding. With a good chat, taking in each others opinions, reasons and issues it should be easily resolvable.
Good luck
Coming from a guy, I feel like choosing to pay for content for specific females is over stepping a line, but that’s subjective to your relationship.
Approach it with understanding, explaining that you get why he may be indulging in that, but you feel the nature of it & paying for it, is wrong & makes you feel a certain way.
The issue isn’t with porn, the issue is paying for a specific person. It’s a bit odd, it feels more personal.
Acknowledge you both played a part in things getting to where they have got to, but make sure he understands why this particular thing is wrong.
The rest is up to you two