Can you keep my name anonymous I am absolutely mortified 😂😂
I’m very much a person that has to do something with somebody for example go for a walk go for a coffee I’d never ever go on my own ever…
But today I was off work kids at school husband at work my friends were at work and I didn’t wana waste my day so I thought I’ll be brave I’ll go for a coffee so went to a cafe when I was there i thought oh I’ll have something to eat Iv done the hard part walk in alone!! So ordered my food drinking my coffee and didn’t 4 girls I went to school with come in there all still friends they all said hello to me how’s things blah blah blah and I kept thinking to myself omg there going to think I’m such a weirdo for eating alone!!!!!! So got on with it I could see they kept looking at me.. finished my lunch feeling actually l so guilty all day like this guilt feeling that they saw me alone forgot about it and Lord behold one of the girls from the group messages me!!! I have left it unread!! Hey was just thinking of you there if you ever want to meet for lunch message me and I’d love to meet you.. such a lovely message but I will never ever ever go by myself ever again.. i actually feel like crying .. am i overthinking this completely I just feel so embarrassed 😞
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You really are overthinking this one 💖 many many people – me included – love going out for a solitary coffee to escape hectic lives and hectic people 🤣 you sound very sociable and it was a lovely message so message her back and say how lovely that would be.
Firstly, well done for doing something alone. You’ve done it once and you can do it again 👏🏽. Its nice one of the girls messaged you. Im guessing they haven’t seen you in a while so it will be nice to have a catch up. Message her back, it could be a start of a new friendship.
I think it’s the fact that you so happened to bump into people you know. Who then followed up with a message for lunch.
Otherwise if you didn’t see any one you knew, you would have left feeling empowered
Put your big girl knickers on & message her back 🤷🏻♀️
Honestly I am the same! I hate things like that but yesterday I went and put my big girl pants on went and had a cup of tea alone in a cafe and sat there for a whole hour doing NOTHING.
Like go me! Out my comfort zone but why shouldn’t we be able to enjoy our own company?!
Message the ladies back and maybe meet up with them! They maybe didn’t know how to approach you in that moment and waited until after 🙂 be proud of yourself!
Please let go of all your complicated feelings around this. I eat at restaurants by my myself all the time. I have a lovely time looking at my phone or reading a book. It would annoy me to see someone I knew while I was having a moment to myself! So, I know I can’t just switch off the thing in your brain that makes it weird for you, but please know that you did a normal, healthy thing that nobody could judge you for. And perhaps the outcome is that a nice person wants to have lunch with you next time! Great! I think you should do it again and again until you normalise it for yourself. And whatever you do, don’t bring it up or apologise for it like you did something wrong. All you have to say to that lady is, “It’s so nice to reconnect. Thanks for reaching out!”
Definitely over thinking it. I didn’t realise people thought this was something to be embarrassed about and I didn’t realise it was something people thought was a big deal until very recently!
I’m an only child and Ive always been 100% fine with my own company. Going on a solo shopping trip and finishing it off with a solo coffee or dinner is actually my idea of the perfect day 😅 between having my family, friends & being comfortable in my own company, I’ve struck the perfect social balance
Totally overthinking reply to your friend and enjoy lunch on your own it oozes confidence!
Yes you’re overthinking it. There’s absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. Eating out alone is a joy. Message back and go for lunch, you might rekindle your friendship
They probably thought you were a very confident lady eating on your own.