Looking for some advice my little girl is 3 and has started asking “where her daddy is” and I honestly blank the question he’s never seen her doesn’t want anything to do with her she’s never seen him just lookin for advice in what to say really. Thanks xxx
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Ahh this is a really hard one and quite sad. What a shame he’s missing out on a wonderful daughter. I don’t know what’s gone on for him to not want to be in her life but men like this are waste of space. Does your daughter have any male role models in her life, like an uncle, grandpa? I’d tell her that her dad lives far away and can’t get to see her. I wouldn’t say he doesn’t want to know, not until she’s a bit older to understand then I’d tell her the truth. Do you at least have a photo of him to show her? She’s at that age where she’s noticing things like this and anything you tell her will probably not bother her as she’s so young. Good luck.
Be honest
I would tell her that all family’s are different and not everyone lives with there mummy’s and daddy’s but it’s ok that she dosnt see her daddy because she has lots of people who love her (name close pple around her ) and she gets extra cuddles from mummy x
I told my eldest his dad was at work, when his dad cwme back into his life he never questioned it
Just say he lives far away. Over 2 mountains. Something simple. And he can’t climb over a mountain as he’s not very strong. So then. Just keep that up
Some people make wrong decisions. Even adults. He made a bad decision and not around. But you tell her shes loved by all the right people, that is what matters. Anyone who is there 💗
You should be able to find a few books that tell stories of having just mum it may be easier for her to understand if it’s in a story book and it’s not just her .
A different situation, but I tell my daughter the truth, but the child friendly version. She’s 5.
“We don’t see Daddy because he made some grown-up choices that weren’t safe or healthy for our family, and my job as your mummy is to keep you safe”
Please don’t lie to your children! The long term impact isn’t something you can predict?!
Sit your daughter down and explain that families come in all shapes and sizes.. some families have a mummy, a daddy and some brothers and sisters, some families have 2 mummies, some have 2 daddies, some have granny and grampa to look after the children.. your family has a mummy and a lovely little girl.. and every family set up is absolutely fine so longs as the children have someone to love them and care for them 💓
She’s only a toddler so for now I’d just say “I’ll explain when you’re a bit bigger” you’re not lying and you’re not ignoring her question…in my opinion she’s too young to know/understand the real reason