Hi could I have anon post please. Dunno what more I can do. May be long sorry
My dad has history with taking drugs but as far as I’m aware nothing hardcore.
He’s never really been a reliable dad so I’ve never had a close relationship with him.
He’s taking 28 pregablin a day and drinking heavily. God knows if he’s taking anything else.
I’ve had a talk with him. he says his life is over, it’s shit etc. he doesn’t want to come off them as it’s the only thing making him somewhat happy and getting him outside the house to go to work. he says this is why he’s distanced himself from us as he feels like he’s an embarrassment and doesn’t want us to see him this way. I’ve tried getting him to come on days out etc but says no every time. I’ve tried saying we’ll go see him but he doesn’t want us to as his house is a state. I have kids so can’t take them to the house when it’s a right mess.
People have tried helping him before with the mess and it goes back to square 1. he won’t take his antidepressants, he won’t accept calls from the mental health team. he’s been offered to go to support groups but he says that he knows people that go to them and doesn’t want people knowing his life. So he won’t go.
I am at a loss on what to do. I have told him he is welcome to come see us anytime. Obviously I’ve had to put a boundary in place that he doesn’t come drunk or on drugs if he comes to see the kids as I don’t want them around that stuff. If he doesn’t quit he’s going to end up 6ft under this time next year.. has anyone got any advice please.
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