Can i have a ppp,
Im just lookin to vent really.
My babies father and i broke up around a month ago. At first hebwas having her at the weekend’s then stated hebcouldnt have her one weekend because he was working on a car. He preassured mento go back to work when she was 4 months old, 3 days a week. I tradad my car in when i was pregnant to get a ‘shared car’ and within a month and a half he was pressuring me to ‘sort my own car out’ he lived at mine rent and bills free when i found out i was pregnant and a few months befor that he was mostly stayin at mine. Sibe we broke up he said he would be collecting the car and gave me a month to sort one out. Hasnt offered any money back for my var i traded in. I paid the deisle for the car, it was insured in my name but cars registered to him. He sent me 70 pound for the month he hasnt been here, ive not once said no to him having her, if anything it annoyed me he cancelled the weekend to have her but found the time to come and pick up his car when i told him i sorted one out and diddnt even bother to knock and see her if even for 5 minutes ( this was on the weekend he cancelled havin her because he was too busy) he never messages to see how shes doing. Ive only said no to 1 trip with him for her because it was a 4 hour journey there, 4 hours back. Shes 10 months old. He wont take her steraliser and stuff as he says its no longer needed. I would rather wait until shes a year to stop steralising her bottles.
I just feel so lost with what to do, shes always been an amazing sleeper sleeps through the night and the past 2 weeks shes been extremely unsettled, wakin up around 1, not goin back to sleep.
I dont know if its sleep regression or all the change in her life at the moment. Im just at such a loss of what to do because i want her to have a consistent routine and see her father frequently with a proper routine, when shes older i dont mind the days being abit more jumbled but he works full time, so if he takes her during the week he drops her off to someome in his family and not actually spending time with her himself.
I know he has just as many rights as me but honestly he wants half the say in what happens with her and only a quater of the responsibility.
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You need to keep the issues separate where you can. The car etc issue is one thing and the baby issue is another. Re baby, sleep regression around 10 months is very common, she’ll come through it soon.
Car issue – stop treating him like someone you can trust with money. Cancel the insurance and forget that side of it. It’s all gone and you aren’t getting anything back.
Save up for a car if you can and just get on with life without him, let him see her where he wants but don’t force it, people like that rarely stick with things. Just be the best you can be and focus on you and her.
Go through CMS get what you can and also go to mediation. Does she go to nursery if you’re working? If that’s the case let him have her one night and drop her off at nursery. Also if it’s with family it’s family in that situation as he has to work. Yes sterilising should be till 12 months x