My “daughter” is non-binary and 17 years old I have come to terms with that and understand “they” feel they need a label, however we have a family function to go to next weekend and they refuse to shave their legs or armpits or wear trousers etc to cover it up.
The gathering will have a lot of elderly relatives and family friends who just won’t understand the whole non-binary crap. How can I make my child realise how this affects me and everyone else.
I’m not asking them to be someone else I’m simply asking them to cover up their very hairy legs so we can all avoid the awkward conversations
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Hey so im a 33 year old straight woman who quite frequently has hairy legs/pits/fanny because I have been through puberty and I simply do not care. Female beauty standards are rooted in paedophilia but, sure, talk about how hairy legs upset you lmao.
It’s just body hair! Totally natural, why oh why in 2026 are you expecting anyone let alone your own child to do something unnecessary and unnatural that they are uncomfortable with? It’s not their issue that needs addressing, it’s other people’s expectations that need it! Let your child be themselves. It will be better for them in the long run to feel loved and supported by their family for who they are and not what they look like.
Be kind, be understanding, be supportive and show them that a mother’s love knows no bounds. ❤️
Non binary aside it’s 2026 women shouldn’t feel the need to have to shave any body part they don’t want to, sometimes I roll around with hairy legs and pits and I’m 37 🤣
Elderly or not I’d never ask my child to be who they aren’t to please and being! I don’t care thats my child and I’ll stand loud and proud with them weather i understand their ways or not
I’d suggest you find some info and do some reading to fully understand ‘non-binary’ and focus on having your child’s back no matter what and stuff everyone else!
Just because you choose to love your child doesn’t mean you have to condone it. As parents we don’t have to just fall for the next thing that someone makes up. No need to attack me. We all can have our opinions. I don’t have an answer for you. If she is willing to shave that would be great. If not and it’s an issue just have her not attend. You can still love your daughter but don’t agree with her lifestyle.
Why should anybody shave their armpits or legs?
I rarely shave my legs, infact sat here right now in shorts with hairy legs. Do I care, nope, because when I shave I get serious skin reactions and so I only do them a few times a year. If someone wants to look at my legs, who cares, we all grow hair, it’s normal. If your 17 year old is confident in themselves and doesn’t mind then it shouldn’t be an issue and this is a you issue which you, like the other members of the family all need to come to accept. Asking them to cover up is no better than those other judging family members 🤷🏼♀️ Also awkward conversations are needed in order to educate people, otherwise you just teach that hiding is normal. Advocate for your child.
It’s leg/armpit hair ffs grow up 😂
Non binary is a made up term. Even they can’t say what it means. I feel for you